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Yay, Håkon came home today! After spending a week in San Francisco, he returned today. With a gorgeous necklace, white gold with three diamonds for me, thank you very much! :)) It's great to have him home, I've missed him a lot.

I'm sick. Sore throat, fever maybe, stuffy nose. Lovely.

The weather here is really weird at the moment. In a day you'll get temperatures from 10 degrees celsius up to 25 degrees. Sun, so warm you can't sit outside, and wind and pouring rain, thunder and lightening. Nice. Maybe it'll snow soon. *shiwers*

Crocodile mad-man, Steve Irwin was killed by a spikey fish today. What a shock. I thought he would be eaten by a shark or something, while petting one that is. It's a tragedy really, the guy had a wife and two small children. RIP, you loon.

Is it smart? Every day I visit blogs and websites of these girls. Girls as young as 16, having babies, getting married, getting divorced. Some of these have gotten pregnant by accident, and I can understand that. Accidents happen, right? What I can't understand are girls at said age, who plans to get pregnant and married to a guy they met two months ago. Hello?? You're 16! What about going to school? Partying with your friends? Just seems strange to me that you will give up being a teenager, when you can easily have kids in 5-10 years anyways?

 Come on.. no education, bad economy, no-where to live (besides at their parents' house... right, lucky parents..) no jobs. Is it good to bring a child into that? And that's just the girls in question. The guys they're choosing aren't exactly the brightest of the bunch either. If they're lucky enough to have a job, it's minimum wage, crappy hours or something that you wouldn't consider doing for the rest of your life. Then you can think, what if I had waited 5 years to settle with a guy? Maybe I could find someone with an education? A better job? I'm not saying money is everything, but wouldn't it be nice to have some extra money, or even have enough money each month to pay the bills? Or food and gas?        
 

I admit it, I wanted to settle with the guy I dated when I was 18-19. I lived with him for over two years. I wanted to have babies, get married. I thought I loved him. Then I started thinking; Why was I with him? Did I have feelings for him? I thought that I couldn't do better than him, that no-one else would be interested in me. So, I settled, for a while, with the thought of being with him for the rest of my life. I was 23 when I decided "enough is enough", moved out and used 6 months to find myself, to find out what I really wanted. I worked hard at my job, I spent time figuring out what I wanted with my life. And I dated several guys before I met the man of my dreams.

You don't really have any idea on how much you change as a person, from the age of 15-16 to 22-23. Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but I felt that way about myself. When you're 16 you're tired of school, you want a boyfriend, preferably an older guy, you want to be an adult. You try to get a job maybe. No-one will hire you, because a) you have no education and b) you have no experience. So, instead you decide to get pregnant. You get married. You're a housewife at 17. I don't really think that's healthy or "normal". Some people would argue "but in the past all females had children when they were 14 etc." That might be true, but what were the options? None. Today you can do whatever you want.  
For those who succeeds with babies and marriage at such early age, I admire you. I can only image how much hard work it is, how many early mornings and late nights you have. 
 

Also, being divorced at 20 can't be too cool, right?  

I'm not saying that everyone have it like this. You can be 17 and be a much better mother than any 30-year-old. People have different views on life, different thoughts about themselves, on what they deserve in life.

Don't settle with second best. Don't be happy with someone else's left-overs. Take time to find your match, your equal.

This is my opinions. I'm not saying "this is how it is", or "this is how it should be". Agree or disagree. I'd like to hear your views.

And I have to say how lucky I consider myself to be. I have a wonderful man who loves me, a loving family, a great house, a job that I enjoy, nice colleagues. Everything really.  (I want a baby too, but we're working on that one ;)   

So, an update is in order, I believe.

August 4: Dislocated my shoulder. Still don't know excactly how that happened, but it hurt like a bitch, and stil kinda does. (Sometimes) Also discovered a small fracture in my back, which also hurts. Funnily enough, hurts more than the shoulder. Esp. when I try to lay down and sleep. Crap.

August 6: Woke up in the middle of the night, the injury in my back (?) was so painful, I couldn't breathe properly. Nice. Called the ambulance and was taken to the hospital. Surprise of the day? One of the guys in the ambulance; My childhood crush. Soo embarrassing.. god. lol. Turned out fine though. Had some more x-rays taken, got some oxcygen (sp?) and went home after a while.  

August 11: Went to visit the in-laws. They live a good 6-hour-drive away from where we live, so.. fun-fun. Was there for a week. And, of course, I had my period the whole damn week. (So, you then know, no baby yet either. *sniff*) Went to the zoo in Kristiansand, celebrated mum-in-law's 50th birthday, his grandparents' birthdays, went shopping... that's about it I think. Might have some pics later on. Maybe.

August 22: Had a hair-cut. Haven't had so short hair since.. I was 5. Or something. Picture? Maybe later.

Today: Having a birthday-party for my grandmother here tomorrow, she'll be 74. My mum is bringing food and cake, thank god! We'll have to clean the house though... or Håkon has to.. remember; my shoulder hurts oh so much! lol. Oh, and I love how the goverment has these rights for people like me, who injuried themselves and can't go to work for a while: I haven't work a day all August, and I'm still getting paid! Woohoo! Me like :)

Håkon is going to the US on Monday. Job related stuff. I don't want him to go, I'm terrified of something happening to him. I know it's more likely that he'll killed in a car accident going to work every day here, but I can't help but think about it... blah. He'll be gone for a week, I'll be bored to death. Oh well, maybe I'll blog some more then.. hehe

I added some pics to the albums.. mostly of my flowers and house though.. haha. Very interesting, I'm sure.

Here's a picture of myself, after I got a haircut. --->

Yeah, yeah, I know I'm a pretty awful updating-person, but there's not really that much to blog about. But here's some highlights:

Today I started re-decorating our hallway. Pictures will be posted when I can find the cord to my camera.. It's a rather small space so i thought that "Oh, this will be a quick thing to do!". After I started it came to mind that the small space has four doors and a window in it, and one of the doors have 6 small windows in it as well. So, loads of masking and swearing later, I was done prepping the room, ready for painting! hehe. We have loads of leftover paint from when we painted the livingroom in November'05, so I'll use that. It'll be white walls and beige details I think. And purple curtains and stuff.

In case you were wondering, I'm not pregnant. I got my period after taking two tests, that were both negative. Blah. So, now we're back to trying. And hoping.

And we finally bought a new bed! Yay! The current one is too small, it's only 120cm wide! And for two, relatively large people hehe, that's not gonna work! So we got a 180cm wide one. It was 8000 NOK, on sale from 12000NOK, so it was good buy. We'll get it in about a week I think. Pictures to come as well!

My sister will start a school this August, that's only 30 minutes away from here! So hopefully we can spend more time together. She's also going to work with me! Woohoo!

As there was a summer-sale type thing in a town nearby tonight, (with stores open until midnight!) we decided to get our asses over there and do some shopping! For myself I got: A pink-ish necklace, two white bras, and.. umm.. that's it. Haakon got: A England footballteam t-shirt, two sweaters (brown and turqouise (sp?)) We also got several towels on sale and new sheets for the bed. Oh, and some roses! :) Tomorrow we might go and look at a new bed! Because the one we have now is too small. Or we're too big hehe. (It's only 120cm wide or something..) So, we're gonna look for something bigger. 180cm wide I guess.

My best friend, Inger-Marit, is currently on holiday, on a interrail though Europe, with her boyfriend. I'm so jealous! lol. I want to go somewhere too, but maybe not the "interail-way" of travelling. I like to stay in one place more than a day and be sleeping comfortable in a hotel-room. And there's also the money-issue... right now we have some extra cash, but it's always nice to have some just in case something happened. Also, we need a new car. We talked about, and we're going to try and get a bigger/newer car if I get pregnant, but Haakon wants to finish one of his loans before we get a car-loan, which makes sense. So, we should really try and save as much money as possible, although that's so boring :P

I added some pictures, in the albums to your right----> Enjoy!

 Oo, and no period yet! In case you were wondering haha. Fingers crossed! :D

Work: I worked everyday so far this week, now I'm off until Saturday. It's been really good, the sale's been really good and there's been tons of customers. We had a staff meeting on Tuesday, which was kinda boring, as always. This woman from the head office attended the meeting as well, and she's been working with us in the store the past few days. I don't know if I liked that, cos she was very sale-oriented, and I don't really feel comfortable trying too hard to really sell stuff. I will help customers of course, if there's something in particular they're looking for, but otherwise I let people find their own stuff and look around on their own.

Oh, and I have to work 3 Saturdays in a row now. Great.

Family: When I got home last night, Haakon was laying on the sofa and the first thing he said to me was: "Somethihng terrible happened!" I was like... "Who died??" Turned out one of his testicles (TMI I know..) had swollen during the day and was kinda sore now. So he went to the doctor this morning to check it out. The doctor said it probably wasn't anything to worry about, but he'll be going to the hospital for a check up later on, just in case. He also picked up a pregnancy test for me.. a digital one! Silly boy, of course it couldn't be a regular, boring one.. hmf. I haven't taken it yet though, cos 1: I wan't to wait until my period is actually late and 2: I'm sure/afraid that it's negative.

Thanks: Amanda

So, the previous blog-tool-thingy I used suddenly disappeared. Fucker. I can't find it, so I guess the posts I made are gone. Not that they were very important to me though... had some pics there though. Hopefully I have them stored somewhere on my computer, so I can find them later.

Not much has happened lately either. I'm working a few days a week, Håkon is working a lot. I'm not pregnant yet either (well, I could be, I'll be testing the upcoming weekend if I don't get my period in the next few days!) and I can't say that it's not getting to me, if I'm not pregnant this time either.

Thanks to Terry & Jenn for nice comments!